I have never taken him seriously. I had a waxing and waning crush on him but I never had the desire to date him. Occupied by a new crush, I had been aloof to him but his flirtatious pursuit did not seem to end. I had deemed it as a flirtatious friendship. It was hard to gauge his intentions or to take him seriously. Last night, his intentions could not have been more obvious. We were at a happy hour with Susana and within 30 minutes she pointed out that he was totally hitting on me. There was an awkward pause and he said maybe. As the night progressed, he kept asking me about my dating life, what I was looking for, a one-night stand story and if I approach guys directly . What more… He was touching me playfully and playing footsie with me.
He noticed that I hated my drink so made sure I got the one I liked. When I called myself, both he and Susie cried in unison that I was not and should stop saying that! The way he looked at me and spoke to me was more than lust; I felt like he actually liked me. He was looking at me like K did but I try not to give it too much credit. Lust and like were difficult to separate sometimes.
At some point when we were by ourselves, he asked me if I was going home with him. My heart started beating rapidly and I felt speechless. I would have said yes if we did not work together. This was hard. To make matters worse, he said that he would ask me on a date if we were not working together. A one-night stand was the less detached way to go about this. I was torn. I felt stupid that I could not give a snappy answer. I saw that he was trying to convince me to come with him. I did not like that he was trying to seduce me. I was sick of people that were capable of manipulation. But I was curious too… I had’nt slept with someone in over a year and what better than someone you are attracted to and already know. Besides, I was clear that we could never date conventionally. The worse that could happen was he told people at work.
With nothing much to lose, I decided to take the plunge. We lay on his rooftop looking at the Houston skyline and spoke sweet little nothings for a while. It did’nt have to be absolute love and dedication. This feeling of belonging and being wanted was all I needed then. I decided to let go of shame, not being good enough… I wanted this experience to remove some of my old scars… of not being able to do sex because it was painful or being ashamed of my body because it was not “perfect”. I decided that I will let him fuck me no matter how much the pain and will not admit how I feel post sex. I was done being vulnerable with the hope that knight in shining armour will understand and heal me.
I did the act, I gave him what he wanted, I enjoyed it a bit as well and I did not toil all night for morning to come. I took off after the rendezvous, letting go of him , his body and shaking off any disappointment or regret I might have felt. It felt good to break the curse.