Surina Talks: You are safe and focus internally

When deciding on a behavior change: Ask yourself – Is this hurting or helping me?
Are you making external environment the center of focus?
We discussed how worrying has become a habit for me
I am often protecting myself using pity or victimizing myself.
Tell yourself – I am safe even if I don’t have things my way
Every choice is a tradeoff. What tradeoff am I willing to make?

Closure, fix things, worry – behaviors. I am surrendering and feeling safe
Use I statements – for letting off my steam – not to influence behavior – don’t expect things from others – focus back on yourself